should you ask a guy out?
I consider myself a feminist or a feminist-to-be at least. I know this is not exactly the most important issue women are facing today (!), but I've always thought it's ridiculous that girls should have to wait for guys to ask them out... but I've asked two guys out in my whole life, both with no luck! so I know how it feels to be turned down, even if you get over it after a few hours, which makes me admire guys' courage for asking girls out left and right! So the question is: should we just leave it to guys to ask and be turned down? or should we step up and face the occasional rejection in exchange for the liberty of asking out the people we like?!
PS- comments that make fun of me will be deleted! :D I'm a very open-minded person too, did I ever mention that before?
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If I like a person, I aske them out! I tried it twice it terribly failed once though! But i'm happy I did want I wanted to do...
:) glad I'm not the only one!
http://www.amazon.com/Manual-Explains-Think-Mate-Women/dp/0307345696
good luck...
Mola, Thanks! I actually watched a show on this book a while back... maybe it's time to buy one!
I asked my first boyfriend out and it was a pretty successful relationship for 4 years!(although he still tells me he was about to ask me out) Do as you feel!
You should do it at the very least it will make a good story.
guys, guys, ... i've already done it, hence the "both with no luck" part! Glad that everyone's supportive of the idea though! ;) hopefully I'll have more luck next time around!
of course you should do it:D (ive done it twice, once lucky, once nope:|) , but I never regret them ,and will do the same, anytime I feel like it.
i have never tried that in spite of the fact, there was some feelings that i had ,but i have been always asked to go out,
then later i always regretted why i didn't try (at least once in my whole life) to "choose" instead of "being chosen"?!?!
and now you know it is toooo late...so please go on
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Are guys allowed to comment on this?
ali :), of course, go ahead!
I wouldn't say there is a right or wrong answer unless you wanna look at from a pure statistical point of view :)
Anyway aside from the above stupid comment I would say this this in mind. Most probably you will be putting a guy in a situation which he has never exprienced before, so be ready to hear "meaningless" answers in some cases. "meaningless" in the sense that he might really not know what to say. It's much easier for guys to mix feelings than girls. So if you ask him, then give him time to answer and PLENTY of time! If you ask for a prompt response you most probably will get a response which is not a good indicator of his feelings towards you (it can be + or - but don't read too much into it). Guys mix Yes and No much easier.
Ali,
this is a very cool point of view... I guess it makes sense... but it's time guys got used to cases like that don't you think? as Dylan once said: the times they are a-changin'! :)
I am not sure if they should or not, that's not for me to decide. I can only say for myself but that's not really the subject matter here.
Just keep in mind if you want to be a part of change, be ready to accept the higehr-than-average price of it. The begining of change is always pricy :) good to be a part of change but make sure you know how much of your life/emotions/etc you want to invest in change.
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